Comment Mean Girls for the exact words & tips to use if you’re experiencing this so you don’t lose your confidence (or your circle) in the process. And if one person can quietly shift an entire group’s perception of you, without ever saying anything technically wrong? That’s not “drama.” That’s social manipulation. Comment Outfit for links. And share your story below, if this has happened to you. As for the 4 Ways a Mean Girl Covert Narcissist Rewrites the Story to Make You the Villain: They label you before you can label them. “She’s crazy.” “She’s dramatic.” They say it first so when you finally speak up, it sounds like the story they already warned others about. They twist your strengths into flaws. Confident? She’s Intimidating. Kind? She’s Fake. Set boundaries? She’s cold. They can’t handle what makes you respected, so they try to discredit it. They’ll accuse you of copying them. Translation: she needs to stay the original so she can stay in control. This is about her need for power & hierarchy. And they play the victim, loudly. They’ll hint that you’re the problem so others rush to comfort them. The goal isn’t truth, it’s sympathy and social power. About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.